Where it comes from
The Skene’s glands — the female prostate, in the program’s vocabulary — sit around the urethra and fill under pressure. Volume is not a score: a lot and a little are the same event.
Squirting is fluid from the Skene’s glands — the paraurethral glands sitting around the urethra, which the program calls the female prostate. Firm, wide pressure on the front wall of the vagina fills them, and once they are full the fluid has to go somewhere. The last step is the one the guides leave out, and it reverses everything before it: you stop gripping and you bear down.
Get my pleasure planAround the urethra sit the Skene’s glands, also called the paraurethral glands. The program’s name for them is the female prostate, and that name is the useful one: they fill with fluid under pressure and they empty under release. Squirting is that emptying. It is not a performance, it is not a sign of anything, and it is not something a body has to be able to do.
So the honest sequence is arousal, then pressure, then release — and only the middle one looks like technique.
Sex is a Skill for Her is the women’s program inside The Coach. It runs in three parts: your own pleasure first, his body second, leading the connection third. Squirting is one lesson inside the first part, and it arrives after the lessons that make it possible rather than before them. The app is paid.
The quiz asks what already happens and what never has, and returns the plan built for that.
This is the program’s Deep Squirting Method, and the order is not decoration — each step exists to make the next one possible. Learning how to make yourself squirt starts alone, which is also how the course teaches it. A partner’s hand reaches the angle more easily than your own, and that is a fact about wrists rather than about you.
Steps one to four are pressure. Step five is permission. Almost everyone who says it has never happened stopped at four. What the same lesson block does for his body — the seal, the tempo sets, the mistakes — is in our walkthrough of how to give a blowjob.
Three beliefs stop more women than any technique does, and none of them describes a body.
Every muscle you are tightening is the one that has to let go.
It is the most-asked question on the subject and it deserves a straight answer rather than a reassurance. The fluid leaves through the urethra, which is why the doubt exists at all. What fills the glands is not what fills the bladder — and the two can arrive in the same moment, which is also true and which nobody enjoys hearing.
The Skene’s glands — the female prostate, in the program’s vocabulary — sit around the urethra and fill under pressure. Volume is not a score: a lot and a little are the same event.
Same exit. The sensation in that area reads as “I need to pee” right up until it doesn’t — and that sensation is the signal that the glands are full, which is exactly the moment most people stop.
So the sensation has only one possible meaning left. The program treats this as basic setup rather than as an admission, and a towel does the rest of the worrying for you.
Pain, burning, or a hard stop is the body saying no. Ease off. Nothing here is worth pushing through, and nothing about the result is a measure of anything.
Knowing it and doing it on a slow Tuesday evening are two different problems.
Four things account for most of it, and three of them are fixable this week. The fourth is that some bodies simply do not do this, and the program says so rather than selling around it.
Change the warm-up and the pressure first. If nothing shifts after that, you have learned something real about your own body rather than failed at a trick.
From a survey of The Coach users who finished their first four weeks:
Not four days, and not four evenings of reading.
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“I’ve been learning things about my body, and it’s anatomy, that I’m somewhat embarrassed to say I didn’t yet know, and I say that as someone whose 37 and inherently curious!! That shows me how important apps like this are, because female health and orgasam is often ignored to our detriment. ✨ Well done to the creators for re-centring women and doing it so well!”
Clinical researchers, certified sex therapists and medical professionals, including practising urologists, shape what The Coach teaches. Sex is a Skill for Her is the women’s curriculum in that library: your own anatomy first, then one pleasure pathway at a time, then his body, then leading the connection.
Dr. Jessica Yih
Urologist and director of women's sexual health and male infertility at UCI.
Dr. Kirti S. Patel
Board-certified ob/gyn and host of The Gynarchy, a women's-health podcast.
Dr. Justin Lehmiller
PhD in social psychology and senior research fellow at the Kinsey Institute.
Dr. Paula Hall
Accredited sexual and relationship psychotherapist, registered with leading professional bodies in psychotherapy.
Natalie Goldberg
Certified sex and family therapist dedicated to improving intimate relationships and personal well-being.
Dr. Susie Gronski
Licensed physical therapist, certified sexuality counselor, and founder of a men's pelvic health clinic.
Dr. Gary Shlifer
DO, board-certified internal medicine physician specializing in preventative care, nutrition, and anti-aging.
Dr. Joshua Roland
MD, sleep medicine specialist, and clinical instructor at the David Geffen School of Medicine, UCLA.
No, and the program is direct about it: squirting is not a trophy and not proof that anyone is sexually advanced. It is one release among several a body can produce, and plenty of the strongest orgasms in the course’s own material involve no fluid at all.
Yes, and the program teaches it solo first — the whole first part is self-directed. A partner’s hand reaches the front-wall angle more comfortably than your own wrist does, so it is often easier with someone else, but nothing in the method needs a second person.
Nobody can answer that for you, us least of all. The course refuses to put a date on it and says only that regular exploration increases comfort and responsiveness over time. It puts a figure on one thing only: pelvic-floor work, where it reports stronger orgasms within two to four weeks — that is the app’s Kegel Journey.
Sex is a Skill for Her, the women’s program, split into three parts and delivered a lesson and a practice at a time — ten to thirty-five minutes each, many of them guided audio. Squirting is one lesson in the first part. The Coach is paid, and the quiz ends in checkout.
None of the three for this. Fingers reach the angle, a towel handles the rest, and the first part of the program is written to be done alone. The course does recommend a curved toy and lubricant for some of the later front-wall work — recommendations to buy, never things the program includes.
Completely. What you do in The Coach stays in The Coach. No data is shared, and your activity is visible to no one but you.
Two ways. Email support@the.coach and a real person on our team gets back to you — usually within a day. Or open the app, go to the Today tab, tap your profile, and hit Support. Both land with the same people.
