The Crown Slide: A Hand Technique
The Crown Slide combines one hand near the base with the other moving around the head. Keep the grip comfortable, use suitable lubricant and change hands when you want a break.
Learning how to give a blowjob starts with choosing what feels comfortable for you and asking what your partner enjoys. Depth, suction and pace are preferences to discuss, not measures of skill. You can keep contact shallow, use your hands or stop at any point. The Sex is a Skill program in The Coach for Her app includes lessons and practices about oral and manual touch. Answer a few questions to get a personal plan.
Take the quizOne technique, the Warm Seal, stays at the head of the penis: your lips close around it and your tongue rests underneath as a soft support. It needs no depth, so you can keep contact shallow the whole time. Add gentle suction only if you both like it.
Deep throat means taking the penis farther into the mouth toward the throat. It’s optional. No angle or neck position removes the gag reflex or guarantees safe, comfortable contact. You can choose shallow contact for the whole experience.
Your partner’s orgasm isn’t a result you have to produce. Keep the focus on an experience you both want.
Sex is a Skill for Her is a program in The Coach for Her app. It begins with your own pleasure, then explores your partner’s body and taking the lead. Oral lessons cover contact, pace, positions and comfort, with optional techniques you can choose to explore. You don’t have to progress toward greater depth.
Three things you can discuss and adjust together.
Comfort and feedback matter more than reaching a particular depth.
The program includes handjob techniques that vary grip, pressure and movement. You can explore them separately or alongside oral touch. The best handjob tips are the same as for oral: ask what he likes and adjust.
The Crown Slide combines one hand near the base with the other moving around the head. Keep the grip comfortable, use suitable lubricant and change hands when you want a break.
Ask which pressure and movement your partner enjoys. An erection can change during sex, and a particular hand movement can’t guarantee that it will stay firm. You can pause or change activities without treating that change as a failure.
You can agree to reduce pressure, slow down or take a break if your partner wants to delay orgasm. These are preferences to explore together, not reliable controls over when orgasm happens.
You can compare a gentle glide, a change of grip or a pause, asking what your partner enjoys. Keep twisting or pressure comfortable and avoid treating a finishing technique as a guarantee. Choose lubricant intended for the activity and compatible with any condoms or toys involved.
Explore lessons and practices about comfort, communication and touch in The Coach for Her. The quiz shows you where to start.
A comfortable position lets you move easily, control depth and rest your neck. Choose what works for both of you.
Footjobs and erotic massage offer other ways to explore touch together.
The program discusses common concerns about oral sex, including taste, smell, gagging and feeling pressured. Practical adjustments may help with comfort, but choosing not to give oral is a complete answer.
Oral sex can transmit sexually transmitted infections. Condoms reduce that risk. Discuss protection as well as comfort and boundaries before starting.
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Answer a few questions to get a personal plan. Explore the lessons and practices at your own pace.
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The Coach works with clinical researchers, sex therapists and medical professionals, including urologists.
Dr. Jessica Yih
Urologist and director of women’s sexual health and male infertility at UCI.
Dr. Kirti S. Patel
Board-certified ob/gyn and host of The Gynarchy, a women’s-health podcast.
Dr. Justin Lehmiller
PhD in social psychology and senior research fellow at the Kinsey Institute.
Dr. Paula Hall
Accredited sexual and relationship psychotherapist, registered with leading professional bodies in psychotherapy.
Natalie Goldberg
Certified sex and family therapist dedicated to improving intimate relationships and personal well-being.
Dr. Susie Gronski
Licensed physical therapist, certified sexuality counselor, and founder of a men’s pelvic health clinic.
Dr. Gary Shlifer
DO, board-certified internal medicine physician specializing in preventative care, nutrition, and anti-aging.
Dr. Joshua Roland
MD, sleep medicine specialist, and clinical instructor at the David Geffen School of Medicine, UCLA.
Yes. Fellatio is the clinical word, giving head and blowjob are the everyday ones, and all three name the same act.
People enjoy different kinds of pressure, movement and contact. Ask your partner what feels good and keep your own comfort part of the conversation. Strong suction, speed or depth isn’t a requirement.
Stop if you gag or feel uncomfortable. If you want to continue, you can use shallower contact or switch to your hands. Don’t rely on a particular angle, neck position or exercise routine to remove the gag reflex.
Sex is a Skill for Her includes lessons and practices about your own pleasure, your partner’s body and taking the lead. Oral and manual touch are among the partnered topics. Practices range from ten to thirty-five minutes, and several include audio guidance.
You can begin without a partner: the first part focuses on your own pleasure. The manual and oral practices require a realistic toy for rehearsal before involving a partner. The toy isn’t included with the app.
