Clitoris and the Front Wall
You can combine clitoral touch with comfortable pressure on the front vaginal wall if you enjoy both. Adjust either kind of touch when you need to.
After an orgasm, direct clitoral touch may feel too intense. If you want to continue, pause or try gentler touch on another area, then see how you feel. You might enjoy a still palm over the vulva or light touch on your thighs before starting again slowly. Multiple orgasms are possible for some women, but they aren’t something you need to achieve. The Sex is a Skill program in The Coach for Her app includes a lesson on multiple orgasms and a practice built around what happens after the first. Answer a few questions to get a personal plan.
Answer a few questionsHaving multiple orgasms means experiencing more than one orgasm in a session. They may occur close together or after a break. Recovery time and preferred touch vary, so the useful question is whether you want to continue and what feels comfortable.
Pay attention to how your preferences change after the first orgasm.
You can pause, return to enjoyable touch and explore a change if you want to continue. These are options rather than three required phases, and there is no fixed recovery window.
If you prefer to stop after one orgasm, you can. If you want to continue, let comfort guide the pace and take as much time as you need.
Sex is a Skill for Her is a program in The Coach for Her app. It begins with your own pleasure, then explores your partner’s body and taking the lead. The first part includes a lesson about multiple orgasms, a twenty-five-to-thirty-five-minute practice and a lesson about edging. You can use the guidance to explore without aiming for a required number of orgasms.
Three expectations you don’t need to meet.
Your preferred touch may change after orgasm. Continue only if it feels good.
A blended orgasm is a term for orgasm associated with stimulation of more than one area. Combining touch can feel different, but it doesn’t necessarily feel stronger. These four examples offer ways to compare sensations.
You can combine clitoral touch with comfortable pressure on the front vaginal wall if you enjoy both. Adjust either kind of touch when you need to.
If you enjoy nipple touch, you can add it to another kind of stimulation. Notice whether the combination feels pleasant or distracting.
You can combine clitoral touch with touch around the perineum, the area between the vaginal opening and anus, if you enjoy it. Each area can feel different, and you can leave out any contact you don’t want.
With a partner, you can each focus on a different area or guide one another. Talk about pressure and pace instead of assuming that two kinds of touch will feel better.
The program’s practices give you a structure for comparing kinds of touch. Take the quiz to get a personal plan.
A full body orgasm describes pleasure that feels spread across the body. These six ideas let you explore different kinds of touch and sensation, without expecting a particular result.
The aim is to notice which sensations you enjoy, whether they feel focused or spread through the body. You don’t need a particular kind of orgasm to benefit from that exploration.
Edging means approaching orgasm and then reducing or pausing stimulation. These edging instructions for women describe three approaches, followed by suggestions for choosing and ending a practice. You can stop whenever you want to.
If you’re looking for edging audio for women, note that the edging practice in Sex is a Skill for Her isn’t a guided audio session. For practices that do include spoken guidance, see our guide to guided masturbation.
A simultaneous orgasm means partners reaching orgasm at about the same time. It can happen, but it isn’t a measure of compatibility. If you want to explore a shared pace, communicate what feels good without making matching the timing a requirement.
Agree on words you can use, such as “keep doing that,” “slower” or “stop.” Silence or tension alone doesn’t tell a partner what you want.
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Answer a few questions to get a personal plan. You can explore the program’s practices at your own pace.
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The Coach works with clinical researchers, sex therapists and medical professionals.
Dr. Jessica Yih
Urologist and director of women’s sexual health and male infertility at UCI.
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Dr. Justin Lehmiller
PhD in social psychology and senior research fellow at the Kinsey Institute.
Dr. Paula Hall
Accredited sexual and relationship psychotherapist, registered with leading professional bodies in psychotherapy.
Natalie Goldberg
Certified sex and family therapist dedicated to improving intimate relationships and personal well-being.
Dr. Susie Gronski
Licensed physical therapist, certified sexuality counselor, and founder of a men’s pelvic health clinic.
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DO, board-certified internal medicine physician specializing in preventative care, nutrition, and anti-aging.
Dr. Joshua Roland
MD, sleep medicine specialist, and clinical instructor at the David Geffen School of Medicine, UCLA.
Not having had multiple orgasms doesn’t mean anything is wrong with you. Some women have them and others don’t. You can explore what you enjoy after the first orgasm without expecting another.
There is no fixed waiting time. Let comfort and interest guide you. You can try gentler contact, choose another area or take a full break without needing to restart.
No. Blended orgasm describes an orgasm associated with more than one kind of stimulation, such as clitoral touch and internal pressure. The combination may feel different, but it doesn’t guarantee a stronger or more widespread sensation.
You can begin with your hands if you want to. Some practices suggest a toy or lubricant, but those items aren’t included with the app. Warming or cooling gels aren’t a reliable way to coordinate orgasm timing.
Sex is a Skill for Her includes lessons and practices about your own pleasure, your partner’s body and taking the lead. Practices range from ten to thirty-five minutes, and several include audio guidance. The practice focused on exploring after orgasm is designed for twenty-five to thirty-five minutes.
